An observation.
The most-mostest irritating individuals are often the ones who live in a world of their own. The nosiest ones are often the most irritating ones. However, irritatingness can exist in other forms:
- The ones who give prolonged weird stares
- The ones who think their opinion is the absolute truth of the universe
- The ones who never fail to interrupt you when you are obviously busy
- The ones who try to hard to be your friend
- The ones who invade your social space and come too close for comfort when talking
- The ones who laugh at their own jokes
- The ones who are really selfish
and etc.
Usually an irritating individual consists of a combination of elements of irritatingness. It is not hard to realise that the number of elements combined to make up the behaviour of a person is directly proportional to the irritatingness of the person.
We must accept that irritating persons will always be part of our lives. A comforting thing to note is that the percentage of true-blue consistently irritating persons make up only a small proportion of society. Others that you might find irritating could have been irritating due to non-permanent external factor
s/pressures. Perhaps the person was irritating because he/she had met with a stressful situation and was emotionally affected. Perhaps the person was irritating because he/she was not at the best of health and not feeling too comfortable for proper social interaction.
So how can you tell if the person is a true-blue pest or just a person feeling pesty?
Observe.. a true-blue pest.. will have few or no friends. The converse is also true.
We should not ostracise pests. Everyone deserves respect. What do we do then, if we are under the torture of pesky pests?
Pesticide will be your best answer. Pestilence be gone!
No I was kidding.
The best way to deal with pesky pests is to induce them to ponder over their actions. I do believe that most of these pests are not stupid. If they were real retards (I refer to the medical condition, not the derogatory meaning of the word), it would then be understandable why they behave in a manner incoherent with social norms. BUT nooo. They are not retards. They are professionals like you and me (maybe you
only, not applicable for me coz Imma Posar!) with respectable jobs and decent salaries. Thus they are not retards.
Thus in dealing with pesky pests, we should try and prompt them to ponder with the questions like:
- What do you think?
- How would you feel if..?
- You may have thought that was appropriate, but I felt that... can you understand my disposition?
- I hope that in future you would stop.. because I.. do we have an understanding on this?
so on so forth.
Guide the pests to learn to stop. Teach them on when they should stop. I find myself a real hypocrite (poser) upon typing the above paragraph. But I do believe its true, and I'm trying to hold my temper in such difficult situations and walk-the-talk.
How about you, do you know when to stop?
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