Paws-to-Ponder: Compliments

From day to day events, I noticed complimenting others has become rare practice. Do people genuinely have nothing to compliment others on, or do people experience difficulty in expressing admiration?


I'm not encouraging indiscriminate complimenting. Compliment only if the subject is something you genuinely admire. You can compliment Bigots too (why not if they really deserve it?) if the compliment is something you sincerely believe.


i.m.h.o. a compliment is such a wonderful thing to produce. It shows you respect and are generally interested in other people to acknowledge things they do. It draws the gap between people and essentially, it makes you human because You Care. Plus, another good thing is that.. compliments are FREE!


Because Compliments imply Appreciation, withholding a compliment shows narrow-mindedness and selfishness. I would also think it shows prejudice. If prejudice is not what you intend then please learn to release that tight-fist on complimenting others.


Hope everyone could share a little more compliments - and hopefully they are genuine ones. 


“There is no effect more disproportionate to its cause than the happiness bestowed by a small compliment.”


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Wednesday Nights

Missed a drinking session after work today, a small pity because I appreciate there's some charity auction going on over drinks which I would have been delighted to watch. But it's alright for me I'm not keen on alcohol. There are, however, some people who believe that if you don't drink, you don't 'go out' enough.


Not highly interested today to be labouring the point on how loosely correlated these two issues are. Instead I'm going to be talking about how the 'miss' turned out to be a 'hit' for me.


So Wednesday nights I'm attending dress making (DM) lessons. Been doing this for 4 weeks now (excluded 2 sessions I missed due to OT work) and every lesson I go to class being a happy student.


Today's lesson was a big milestone for me. I learnt how to transfer my pattern from brown paper to real fabric, how to secure the pattern to the fabric and cut the fabric properly. I learnt there is a machine to use that's specifically for stitching the holds on frayed ends. I also learnt how to stitch up darts.


That's a lot of MEANINGFUL time spent - in place of 'going out' to absorb alcohol and cigarette smoke. I actually prefer learning to make tangible stuff that I can wear. Hope I can be good enough to make presents for my beloved lovely friends..

I hope I don't miss lessons again. My DM peers have advanced way beyond what I'm doing now.


You want me to skip another lesson? 
MAKE ME.


xoxo


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Paws-to-Ponder: Managing Conflict @ Work

I can only say that the first step to Managing Conflict at Work, is to understand if the 'Conflict' is really a conflict or if it is something else that seems like a conflict. - i.e. is the conflict in your mind?

Well okay if you insist there IS a conflict, the ensuing point would be to understand what's the issue here leading to the conflict. People do not conflict for the sake of being in a conflict. If conflicts exist there must have been a triggering factor unless people are irrational or otherwise crazy.

If upon scrutiny, irrationality or insanity of others is what you have decided to be the triggering factor then my advice is for you to see a shrink - you are way past beyond the stage of reading my brog entry to find your fix. The bug is in your head you can go fix it first. You may be surprised that there are many more rational people out there than you have already identified. 

If you have decided otherwise then I believe there is still hope yet for you for you have understood that there is no Consequence without Cause. In this case the next piece of key take-away I have is that not everyone has the same mindset. Which is a splendid thing otherwise we will be like robots in I, Robot.

So the next thing that comes to mind is what actions/words can you do to buy the hearts and minds of others?

Money will be nice but not necessary. This works only if you are able to distribute ginormous amounts. You all Tight-Fist ones, this will not do.

Instead you may want to try giving out a little manners and respect - positive externalities available in distributing these two.

Manners to Thank, Apologise, Acknowledge, Listen, Understand.

Respect to give the Benefit-of-Doubt (until at some point this gets betrayed, then we will think of something else), to allow Personal Space, and in general respect that everybody's Time Is Important.

As Mister Liu Bei had demonstrated: 

疑人不用用人不疑

Respect that everyone has valid reasons in making decisions and behaving as is.

Respect that everyone has the appropriate level of mental capacity to make rational decisions.

Respect that knowledge being shared by others is not trash.

Respect the concept of team work; since no man or woman is an island - and I really mean it is necessary to UNDERSTAND what team work is in the first place.

And, last but not least, Respect PRIVACY!

Goodness gracious me. Any more explicit I'd have to lead your life on your behalf to make things work out for you.

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